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I’ve been confused about my sexuality for two years. I am a 22-year-old female. I liked guys when I was in school, but then, in perhaps the most stereotypical of fashions, I developed a HUGE crush on Tegan and Sara when I was nearly 20. I like the idea of being with women, but I have never had a major crush on anyone since. So I’m really confused over what my sexual orientation actually is. I know many hetero-identifying people experience same-sex crushes, but can someone’s whole sexual orientation just change overnight?

I can think of only two possible explanations for the blistering heat all around the globe this summer: Either the scientists are right when they say that human activity is causing climate change, or whoever has his hand on the world’s thermostat is really pissed. 

“So has Occupy Eugene dropped the ball on the homeless situation?” a friend asked me recently. Our summer issue of the Eugene Occupier had just come out, and I happened to have a stack with me. I handed him a copy and invited him to read the front-page article on Opportunity Village by Jean Stacey.

DEAR READERS: I’m on vacation for the next two weeks. This week’s column features three recent Savage Love Letters of the Day. (The SLLOTD goes out to folks who have the Savage Love app for iPhone and Android.) I hope everyone is having a great summer, and I’ll see you in two weeks. —Dan

 

 

I’m 16 and I like my friend’s mom who is 35. She’s married and has two kids. But I really like her. What should I do?

Help One Really Needy Youth

August is a month of uncertain excitement. This year is no exception; exciting because the many cold, rainy days that have preceded its arrival cause anticipation of its having the year’s second least average monthly rainfall.

I just read about rabid raccoons in the July 26 News Briefs and I have some personal opinions on this article. Many, many years ago, I worked as a microbiologist, assisting in the examination of suspected rabid animals that had bitten people. While doing so, I learned a lot about the disease of rabies and its ramifications.

Remember when “queer” was an insult? I guess you can still use it if you’re feeling particularly retro, but in general most people are kinda over it. All those years of outing ourselves and parading through town chanting “We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!” pretty much worked. 

I have a question regarding pornography usage and browser histories. As a matter of courtesy to my wife (and anyone else who may use our devices), I always clear the browser history on whatever device (computer/iPad) I may have used to view pornography. I have always just assumed that she doesn’t want to see “Teen Anal Adventures” or “Lifestyles of the Deep and Fisted” when she logs onto the browser history.

On July 1st, Greenhill Humane Society began providing sheltering and adoption activities at the former Lane County Animal Services facility. Greenhill now operates two facilities in Eugene — one on Green Hill Road and one on West 1st Avenue.

Before Obamacare, trying to get your health insurance company to pay your medical bills could be like trying to get your ex-wife to agree to lower alimony payments. If you miss those wonderful times, vote Republican.

I am a hetero female, but one of my biggest fantasies is for a guy to dress up in women’s underwear. Not full-blown drag, just a teddy, fishnets, and some heels. He doesn’t even have to act like a woman. I just want him to parade around a bit, and just for me. I’ve had the ovaries to bring this up only twice to men I’ve been with. My first boyfriend was game, but I was so insecure with my sexuality at the time that I let it go. My second boyfriend found it degrading and wouldn’t do it.

The Affordable Care Act survived the Supreme Court, but we should not celebrate yet.

I am desperately in need of your help. After eight years of marriage, it turns out that the blowjobs I give are “good but not great” and are now getting “boring.” My husband is unable to tell me anything specific that he wants me to do, just that I should do something different and “be creative.” I’ve done pretty much everything I can think of over the years, fingers and hands included, so I have no idea where to go from here!

Present narratives about race and culture define what we can say, what we see and what we believe we can do in transforming ourselves, our communities and society. Racial problems seem impossible to resolve.

I'm a smart, professional woman in my mid-30s who dates the same. I also happen to use a wheelchair; I was diagnosed shortly after my first birthday with a motor neuron disease. I have about as much physical strength as a quadriplegic but I have full sensation. (Boy howdy, do I!) I am careful about who I date because of my physical dependence on the people around me. I am also wary of folks who call themselves "devotees." These are individuals with disability-related fetishes. They gravitate toward amputees, but some are attracted to women in chairs.

The chickadees have fledged from the nest box hanging outside our breakfast window. We miss the daily watching of their activity. It’s like letting go of children who head out into the world on their own, leaving us parents.

When a politician claims to be fiscally and socially conservative, he is telling you that he can believe corporations are people but he’s not sure about gays. 

Occupy Wall Street is a movement to equality. Worldwide, facets of Occupy make a variety of demands, but, fundamentally, the movement represents the classic human striving for equality.

My younger brother and I are close. He came out of the closet last year, although it wasn’t much of a surprise because everyone knew he was gay since forever. Everyone is happy he’s out because it kind of takes the elephant out of the room, and our immediate and extended family are all really supportive. But for the last six to nine months or so, he’s been really depressed about not ever having had a boyfriend. He’s 21 and he’s always talking about how he wants to find a boy to be with in a relationship and not just for sex, but he says it’s impossible for him to meet said boy.

Intense negotiations are under way behind closed doors in Washington, D.C., as congressional leaders horse-trade the main provisions and the various riders attached to the pending Transportation Bill.

If Abbott and Costello were alive today, they would want to live in Oakridge.

Is it normal for my man to be so attracted to boobs that even though mine are beautiful and perfect, my boyfriend still wants to look at every other woman with a set of big boobs that he can? Aren’t mine enough?

Boyfriend Ogles Other Breasts

 

You sound like a new reader, BOOB, so before we get to the advice, I wanna welcome you to the Savage Love family. With that out of the way … 

Nope, yours aren’t enough.